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  AVAILS

  Escorting for the Elegant Woman

  By Hannah Jay

  Avails: Escorting for the Elegant Woman

  Publication Date: November 6, 2015

  Copyright © 2015 Hannah Jay

  The author reserves all rights to this book and asserts her moral right to be identified as the author of this work.

  The author may be contacted at:

  [email protected]

  The author wishes to thank the proprietor and staff of Dating.com and skipthegames.com where much of the original material in this book was originally published.

  The author also wishes to thank her wonderful editor, husband and muse. He will certainly have no reason to avail himself of the services described herein.

  BEGINNINGS

  Yikes!

  The Avails Table of Contents is longer than some e-books. Well, yes.

  Here’s the thing, while Avails is about escorting it is also a guide for girls who want to be savvy in the city. Girls who want to be the glossy, sleek, elegant creatures who may or may not be “kept”. You don’t have to be an escort or a mistress to enjoy this book.

  There is a lot to say about glamour, sex, clothes, advertising, marketing, safety and all the styles of escorting, types of clients and innovative dates. Here’s a hint, put Avails on your phone and read pieces when you have a moment.

  This is not a book for service providers. I don’t know much about that business. What I do know is how an elegant woman or a delightful ingénue can become a successful escort with a minimum of fuss and almost no bother.

  “Money is the tribute age pays to beauty.” A quote which I found years ago in a book I’ve long since lost. I don’t for a second think escorting is for everyone; but I do think that a woman should always understand that it is not just something “bad girls” do. Nor is escorting reserved for the very beautiful, the ultra-slim or the sexually voracious. Escorts come in all shapes and sizes and while most girls start in their early twenties, there are plenty of escorts in their forties and on up.

  Avails is not about “sex”. If you want tips on technique there are hundreds of useful books. Avails is not about sex because escorting is only tangentially about sex. Oh yes, activities between consenting adults happen more often than not; but that is not why the sort of man a smart girl wants to see is paying the high prices a smart girl charges.

  Elegant women who escort know that the men who see them want the glamour, the fantasy and the luxury which only an escort or a mistress can provide. No clever girl wants to be in the service provider business; if she is to have the tribute age pays to beauty it will be on her terms.

  Avails is about suggestions and inspiration and being savvy about a business which has existed for thousands of years. Most of all, Avails is about understanding the higher pleasures of the escort’s trade.

  Enjoy!

  1 - THE ESCORT DECISION

  INTRODUCTION

  Many years ago, as I was living in a strange city with little money, it occurred to me that escorting might be interesting. As luck would have it a very sweet man found himself in need of a mistress and I found myself in possession of a lovely loft with a water view. I had enough money to live simply but I must admit I wanted more.

  I always enjoyed writing and responding to personal ads – this was well before the internet and you actually had to drop you copy off and pick up responses – and so, more or less for the sheer Hell of it, I placed an ad in the more doubtful section of the classifieds.

  Pretty, articulate, young lady would like to meet generous gentleman callers.

  That was it. In the doubtful section you could place a phone number, which I did, as well as my box number. The paper came out and my new, “business” line began to ring. Which, frankly, was a surprise. I had not really thought out what I was offering or, for that matter, what I would charge.

  I flubbed a few calls but, eventually, managed to have a conversation with a very nice, older sounding man. I was very vague about the “activities” but assured him he would be delighted. At some level we connected. After a good deal of phone flirting he came to the point.

  “And how much would this delightful evening set me back?” he asked. This was long before escorts advertised prices and I had no idea. In fact I was still pretty ambivalent about seeing paying gentlemen at all. My rent was $800 a month and I blurted out “$1000…and a bottle of good champagne.”

  It turned out that I had quoted a rate just over three times the going rate for a top drawer escort in my city.

  “You must be very special.” was all he said, “I’ll see you at eight.”

  I was launched. And terrified. And exhilarated and completely at sea. What would we do? What would I do? What did he want? What could I give him to earn more than my rent in a few hours?

  It turned out that I was a very lucky girl. My first “retail” client was just as nice as he sounded on the phone. He was older, or to be fair, I was very young and he was in his early forties. We ate a little smoked salmon which I had used my last eight dollars to buy and he brought a wonderful bottle of champagne. We talked and laughed and admired my view and when the champagne was down to its last glasses, we went upstairs and had a wonderful time. He’d left an envelope for me on my little hall table when he came in as I asked him to. But he also left another stack of bills as a tip on his way out. Sadly, he lived on another continent and I never saw him again.

  All that I did not know on that first date is in this book. Most of all, what is in this book is a point of view.

  Escorting at every level attracts a great deal of judgment. Nothing unites Puritans and feminists like a narrative about the fallen doves/oppressed women who sleep with men for money. Depending on who you listen to such women have no choice, are trafficked, cater to men’s baser instincts, have been sexually abused and somehow betray the sisterhood. It never occurs to most people that girls who become escorts may make a quite conscious decision to revel in the power which their femininity has given them.

  Well, it occurred to me. As it does to thousands of women who work at the higher end of the escort market, live as courtesans or are happy being wealthy men’s mistresses. There is something deeply empowering about saying to a man, “Yes, I am expensive and I’m worth it.”

  We live in a world of “hook-ups” and dateless sex. Sexuality has been sanitized and pornified and divorced from any sense of the illicit. The idea of maintaining a bit of mystery has been replaced with yoga pants for shopping. The pleasures of being a woman or a girl, have been lost beneath a veneer of equal rights and endless “appropriateness”.

  Yet, the rise of the Internet, the ease of advertising and the creation of websites devoted to reviews of escorts, plus the regular eruptions of “escort” and “mistress” scandals all suggest that while men pay lip service to the “new world” they are more than happy to hire escorts. The fact there are thousands of escort ads and agencies suggests that the demand for escorts has not fallen.

  Avails is a book about escorting for the elegant woman. Elegance is a funny thing. It is not about money. It is certainly not about designer clothes or spendy shoes; rather it is about a sensibility. A desire to live in a certain way. A capacity to understand a bigger world and to live as if you really do create your own world.

  For an elegant woman escorting is a means to her ends. She begins secure in herself, in her taste, in her feminine grace, and she consciously opens herself to the possibility that men might be willing to spend significant money for her time. Which, in turn, will allow her to pursue her interests, passions and desires.

  It is never an equal trade. The elegant woman al
ways ensures that she comes out ahead. But it is a fair trade for her gentleman callers are given a glimpse of a pleasing, long lost, world. They are given respite from the stress and pressures of the world in which they make their living and raise their kids. They balance the scales with money. Lots of money.

  You will not read a great deal about sex in Avails. It is off stage. Consenting adult activities and all that. At its most primitive escorting is about service provision. But the fact is that if a man wants a blow job he can have one for $50 amidst squalor. If that was what escorts were actually selling this would be a very short book.

  The gentlemen who brought me champagne and roses and silky bits of pretty lingerie were feeding much deeper needs. As you read Avails I hope some of those needs will become apparent. But, at the risk of spoiling such plot as there is, my great gift was to pay attention, to listen, to provide a safe, warm, welcoming place where my clients could let down their guards and, for a few hours, be entirely themselves. If, and when, we went upstairs, my client was more relaxed and more, as the New Agers would say, “present” than he’d been in years.

  As you read Avails you’ll see how the technology has changed. You’ll get a sense of how escorts can market themselves and you’ll certainly understand how I think many girls get all this very wrong. You’ll get my point of view.

  Which is nostalgic. In many ways I think the girls coming up and the men who hire them have lost a good deal of the magic, a huge part of the imagination, which my gentlemen callers brought to my door.

  Glamour, enchantment, a sense of transgressive possibility is becoming a dim memory in our pornified world. What used to be slightly wicked behind closed doors is now the gist of Ikea commercials. The risqué has become the catwalk. Fetish has become fashion.

  With a little luck, Avails will remind its readers that the naughty is fun and that the feminine remains mysterious. With even more luck, it will inspire girls in the business to level up their business. To take three giant steps towards courtesanship.

  It’s worth it. You’re worth it.

  Table of Contents

  BEGINNINGS

  INTRODUCTION

  1 | THE ESCORT DECISION

  Is this your own decision?

  Money

  Sex

  Meeting New People

  Enjoying the Feminine

  Planning

  Outlook

  Goals

  Lifestyle

  A Story

  Putting it All Together

  2 | THE ESCORT AS A LUXURY ITEM

  Price is a Signal

  Style

  Details

  Let the Luxury Market Find You

  Sheep from Goats

  Closing

  Luxury Escorting

  3 | LIKE A LADY

  Seem A Dream

  Radiate Presence

  Look Famous

  Travel Light

  The Understatement Statement

  Every Inch a Lady

  4 | A PRIVATE LIFE

  A Story

  Your Privacy with Clients

  Set Hard Limits

  Have Plan B

  Confidentiality and Discretion

  5 | THE ART OF SELF-INVENTION

  Looking for the Girl-Next-Door?

  You Deserve the Best

  Alternative Girl for Encounter

  When Only the Best Will Do

  Elegant Woman Seeking Interesting Man

  6 | UP-MARKET ADS THAT WORK

  Location, Location, Location

  Selling the Sizzle

  The Market

  Headlines: Busses versus Limos

  The Pitch

  The Setting

  Call to Action

  Pictures

  Beyond the Ad

  7 | CONSIDER THE CAMERA

  Use a Professional Photographer

  Know Thy Self, Know Thy Market

  Planning & Prep

  Accessories & Props

  Make a Shot List

  Make-Up & Hair

  Think Sexy

  Have Fun

  The End Result

  Rinse and Repeat

  8 | AN ESCORT’S OFFICE

  Clean

  Tidy

  Organized

  Editing

  Step 1: MAKE A PLAN

  Step 2: RE-ARRANGE

  Step 3: COLOUR

  Step 4: LIGHTING

  Step 5: DETAILS

  LINENS

  FLOWERS

  MUSIC

  CANDLES

  9 | LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION

  Address Matters

  Privacy and Layout

  Security and Safety

  10 | GIVING GREAT PHONE (AND TEXTS AND EMAIL): A GUIDE FOR ESCORTS

  Guidelines to Great Telephone Skills:

  Does your business phone have good reception?

  Do you know what you want AND need?

  How user-friendly is your answering system?

  What does your voice say about you?

  Keep it short and sweet.

  The Oh-So-Subtle Art of Etiquette

  11 | DRESSING UP TO UP YOUR GAME

  Rules:

  Basics

  Lingerie

  Looking Expensive and Worth It

  Gifts are their Own Reward

  Moving your Brand Up-Market

  12 | GET GLOSSY – LEVEL UP YOUR ESCORT LOOK

  GORGEOUS HAIR

  GORGEOUS SKIN

  Mani/Pedi Perfection

  Pearly Whites

  Clean

  A Touch of Sun – Or Not?

  Glossy Girls Dress Simply

  Jewelry, Bags and Shoes

  Attitude

  Ten Things an Escort Can’t Live Without

  1. A SmartPhone

  2. A Little Black Dress

  3. Stockings

  4. Candles

  5. A Riding Crop

  6. Your Favorite Vibe

  7. Perfect Red lipstick

  8. Great Towels and Sheets

  9. Little Black Slip

  10. Refreshment

  Just the Essentials

  13 | TIPS FOR “NO REGRETS” ESCORTING

  Safety

  No Regrets First Contact

  No Regrets Encounters

  Afterwards

  Relax and Grow your Business

  DATES

  14 | RETRO GLAMOUR FOR THE MODERN ESCORT

  Setting the Scene

  Doing Retro Right

  Snaps

  Putting the “Call” into “Call Girl”

  The Retro Date

  Dressing

  The Main Event

  15 | FUN DATES FOR A CHANGE OF PACE

  1. Headline: Guys & Dolls

  2. Headline: Retro date

  3. Headline: I’m In Charge

  4. Headline: Private Paradise

  5. Headline: Little Black Dress

  16 | THE SUBTLE ART OF UNDRESSING

  The Little Details:

  1. A soji screen

  2. A door

  3. Bed Curtains

  Light

  Clothes

  Shoes

  The Reveal

  17 | ESCORTING IN A PORNIFIED WORLD

  Some Do, Some Do Not

  Another Way – Jill’s Indecent Proposal

  18 | DOMINANT DATES THE EASY WAY

  The Logic of Male Submission

  Headline: I’m In Charge

  Headline: Learn to Obey

  Tools of the Trade

  Dressing the Part

  Showtime

  19 | FRILLS: FEMINIZATION FOR FUN AND PROFIT

  Cross Dressing: Veronica’s Way

  First Cross Dressing Date

  From Stylist to Domina

  20 | FANTASY AND ROLE PLAY FOR ESCORTS

  Dressing Up – Carol’s Closet of Fun

  The Governess – Donna, a Serious Domina

  21 | THE FEMININE ESCORT

  What Are Men Missing?

  Ka
itlan – Girly and Gorgeous

  Join Me

  Reinventing the Feminine

  22 | IT’S ABOUT ME? MARKETING FOR THE SHY ESCORT

  Standing Out in the Market

  Shy Girl for You

  Leah: Shyly Successful

  Make Me Your Mistress

  Tricia: Change the Ad, Change the Business

  23 | TRAVEL - THE LONGEST DATE

  Business First

  Business or Pleasure

  Arrangements

  What to Pack

  The Long Date

  24 | SEEKING ARRANGEMENT

  A Mistress

  Preparation

  Time and Exclusivity

  CLIENTS

  25 | AN ESCORT’S GUIDE TO OLDER MEN

  Rachel: Old Wine in New Bottles

  Older Men Prefer Ladies

  26 | ESCORTING IN THE ASIAN MARKET

  Specializing in the Asian Market

  Formality as a cultural bridge

  Theory to Practice: Lauren’s Chinese Only Escorting

  The Asian Advantage

  27 | ESCORTING YOUNGER MEN

  Candace: Tech and Time

  Kali: GamerGirl and More

  28 | THE PROMINENT CLIENT

  Who is High Profile? And How Can an Escort Tell?

  Booking and Screening

  In-Call or Out-Call

  Ultra VIPs

  Money

  Ongoing

  29 | Event Escorting

  The Real Events

  Thinking Ahead

  Marketing – Welcome to the Internet, Again

  A Note On Pricing

  Booking

  His Own, Private Event

  An Island of Calm

  30 | THE ART OF ARM CANDY

  Pricing Perfection

  On Occasion

  Manners Maketh the Muse

  Pay Attention

  Too Good to Be True?

  31 | DON’T GET CAUGHT: A PRIMER FOR MEN

  An Ounce of Prevention

  Stealth

  Busted

  How Not to Get Caught: Take Two

  32 | TEN REASONS WHY ESCORTS ARE NO THREAT TO WIVES

  Alphas Stray

  Escorts Protect Marriages

  • An Escort Does Not Wish to Marry Your Husband

  • Safety

  • A Professional Situation

  • Married Sex is not Escort Sex

  • Fetishes

  • The Expense is Controlled

  • Limited Drama

  • An Escort Will Not Fall in Love With Your Husband

  • An Escort Listens